- My age:
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- In my spare time I love:
- I like travelling
Union opened up about their nine-year age gap in a interview with Essencerevealing that it didn't take her long to see that their difference in years didn't matter at all. I thought you were 12'," she said. He's an old soul.
These are the core obsessions that drive our newsroom—defining topics of seismic importance to the global economy. Our s are made to shine in your inbox, with something fresh every morning, afternoon, and weekend. Yet, there I was, feet dipped in clear water, staring into the horizon, trying to convince two middle-aged women whom I did not know that the man I was with was indeed my husband.
By the fourth day of our vacation on the islands, we had got used to being stared at. But when curious glances turned to quizzical looks, we began to realise that we were considered an oddity: A brown woman with a white man. She then asked me questions about our wedding and everything that had led to it.
Then the other woman, who had remained silent until then, asked me for proof. Where are your bangles?
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I showed them the fading mehendi on my palms. Why did I do that?
I later kicked myself for having misunderstood their questions as friendly banter. When many Indians see one of their women with a man of a different race, they make assumptions, and offer unsolicited advice.
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An Indian woman who has got a white man must be enlightened, even by complete strangers. Probably every woman in India has one story about having been subject to lecherous looks as she has walked down the street. Now make her walk next to a white man. The male gaze turns more brazen by several orders of magnitude. At first, he laughed. Then seeing that I was not going to go, he apologised. Chris, her American boyfriend, had accompanied her. She asked him to watch where he was going. To many Indians, the idea of a mixed-race couple is alien, repulsive even.
Her experiences in those two years in Mumbai before the couple moved to Los Angeles forever clouded the way Aarya thought of the city in which she had grown up. At play here is the stereotype that men from the West are interested in women mainly for sexual gratification. By extension, the Indian women they are with must be promiscuous.
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Then there is patriarchy: Women who venture out of the nest to seek a mate must lack decency. Mixed-race couples often have to deal with scepticism about their relationship masquerading as concern about cultural differences. When Aarya decided to tie the knot with Nicholas inshe often got lectured about the sanctity of marriage and how it should be preserved.
And a mixed-race couple in which one person is black often brings out the worst kind of racism.
I wondered whether she would have felt as much concern over my being so far away from my mother had I married an Indian. In a country where jingoism is at its peak and love is being politically exploited, such comments are no surprise. To the neighbour who tsk-tsked at my life choices, I would like to extend my tender invitation to a home cooked Indo-French meal.
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